STAY AT HOME MOM, OF 3

LOOKING FOR ASSISTANCE

My name is Amanda, my story is crazy but true.  To start, since I was a little girl, my dream was to be a Great Wife, and a Great Mom!  Well, by the age of 19 I was married, and with child. I was so very happy. This was my dream.  Now going on 10 years, and three wonderful children, my life is chaos. My soon to be ex-husband, was not ready to be settled, and have children.  I tried to deal with the cheating and forgive and forget.  Finally, while pregnant, with my third child, still unknowing to me, my soon to be ex, was cheating. I found out, shortly after she was born. I realized, that I could not allow my children to think, that it is okay for a man to cheat, and a woman to sit there and take it.                                          

Now to the next phase, my kids and I went from being a middle class family, to being almost homeless. Two weeks before christmas, my ex, put the house the kids and I resided in, up for sale. Thank god, the man I was babysitting for, allowed my children and I to live in his home. Now, with the sale of the house, I did recieve money, but instead of getting a boob job, or plastic surgery or squander it, I used it to keep my kids in a stable situation.  A friend of mine whom resided in Richmond, va, had just recently bought a home, and offered for my children and I to rent from him. It would give my children a big home with a huge yard. The school system was awesome. I paid a years rent to keep my children safe.   

Next Phase,
My ex did not like that I was making it on my own, and went to the courts, and lied about my situation. The judge would hear nothing else. I had to move back to Virginia Beach, that day, or give my kids to my ex! Now, my ex is very money oriented. He assumed, I would gladly give them up, because I invested all my money in a home. Lord help him,,,he was dead wrong....I went to Richmond, and collected my things, and told my children the bad news. Once again, my children were uprooted. I was praying to God, asking him why this is happening to my children. My children are so good. I moved I moved in with the guy I once babysat for. I stayed there only a week. I talked to an old college professor a friend of 8 years now. I asked him if my children, and I could stay there. He has a huge home in Suffolk. The land was so beautiful, my kids loved it.  Now my ex, once again tried to lie, but a court appointed gaurdian, came to the home and saw that the place in which I was residing, was awesome. My old professor was great, but I felt like a mooch.                                                         

A Phase of "not accepting, NO!!" as an answer
I applied at tons of rental places. My childsupport and alimony, were more than enough for rent and utilities. Now I know, I would have to be frugal, but my kids happiness was all I wanted.  Finally, after being rejected because I had no credit in my name, except for the bankruptcy, I had to sign, due to my ex and his infidelities. I had enough, I wrote to the head of one of the rental offices, and explained my situation. Then I asked them why there was help for people who abuse the system, and those who just pop out babies left an right. Well, apparently it worked, the next day they called saying they had a three bedroom apartment for my children and me. I was so happy but so not prepared. I borrowed money to pay the rental fees. It is sad, but the only people that have reached out to help me, are the people who have no relation to me.                                                                                                

My New Life
Well, I have not been doing this managing on my own very well. I have no support from family, and my childrens father refuses to help anymore than he has to. I have had some one use my identity so I owe a bank, I owe, my old college professor, and I am behind on everything. I am wondering why life is so hard. I can handle it, but I feel like a Failure to my children. I want to give them a life, and not be so stressed. They deserve more than I am giving them. I just want to know if there is help out there.                                

thanks for listening
amanda